Nuptual Nuances
Sep. 5th, 2011 12:36 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
eveglassYesterday, Marc and I went to a wedding. Specifically, the wedding of one of his old friends. I didn't know a single person there other than Marc and his brother, but that's never stopped me before. This is the fourth wedding we've attended in the last twelve months, and I suppose it shouldn't be surprising that I'm starting to discover preferences I never knew I had. Even though I'm not engaged, I hope to be one day, and as Marc and I attend the weddings of friends and family, I find myself keeping a little mental checklist of things I like and things I don't.
Based on yesterday's celebrations, for example, I now know:
- When I recess from the ceremony, I want people singing "Siman Tov" and maybe throwing hard candy.
- I want a hora. I really awesome hora.
- I want a big enough dance floor to have a really awesome hora.
- The MC needs to know what he's doing. If he (or she) specifically brings all the guests onto the dance floor, including the groom taking a break upstairs, there better be a reason for it beyond, "Let's all dance."
- I like my eardrums and I think my guests like theirs. I want the MC to keep this in mind when he sets the volume levels for the music.
- Certain songs will not be played at my wedding. These include, "Macho Man," "I'm every woman," "YMCA," etc.
- The bride yesterday had a basket of flip-flops for the ladies (in the wedding's colors), in case their feet were hurting and they didn't want to dance in their high heels. I may steal this idea.
- I'd like to have some fun activity at the reception. At a wedding we attended a month ago, there was a photo booth with lots of fun props (blow-up guitars, dinosaur masks, feather boas, etc.). Last night there was a "make your own candy bag" station. I want something along those lines.
Little things like that. Oddly, I don't have preferences for many of the big questions ("Where would you like the ceremony?" "What would you serve for the meal?" "Who would officiate?"). But I apparently have very strong preferences for the details. Oh, well. The more you see, the more you learn about yourself, I suppose.
Based on yesterday's celebrations, for example, I now know:
- When I recess from the ceremony, I want people singing "Siman Tov" and maybe throwing hard candy.
- I want a hora. I really awesome hora.
- I want a big enough dance floor to have a really awesome hora.
- The MC needs to know what he's doing. If he (or she) specifically brings all the guests onto the dance floor, including the groom taking a break upstairs, there better be a reason for it beyond, "Let's all dance."
- I like my eardrums and I think my guests like theirs. I want the MC to keep this in mind when he sets the volume levels for the music.
- Certain songs will not be played at my wedding. These include, "Macho Man," "I'm every woman," "YMCA," etc.
- The bride yesterday had a basket of flip-flops for the ladies (in the wedding's colors), in case their feet were hurting and they didn't want to dance in their high heels. I may steal this idea.
- I'd like to have some fun activity at the reception. At a wedding we attended a month ago, there was a photo booth with lots of fun props (blow-up guitars, dinosaur masks, feather boas, etc.). Last night there was a "make your own candy bag" station. I want something along those lines.
Little things like that. Oddly, I don't have preferences for many of the big questions ("Where would you like the ceremony?" "What would you serve for the meal?" "Who would officiate?"). But I apparently have very strong preferences for the details. Oh, well. The more you see, the more you learn about yourself, I suppose.
